I had lunch with a special friend the other day. She’s a new mom of a few months, and I could see myself in her. All the questions, the trial and errors, the good days, the bad days. Everything she said, I relived. This post is for her… and moms like her.
In the wee hours of the night a new-mom-for-the-first-time begins to panic. Feeding routines, sleep schedules, and the demands of a life dependent on her looks daunting through dark under eye circles after a slew of sleepless nights. Little does she know she has nothing to fear. Opinions are aplenty with the wisdom of the “village” eager to
Even if she’s doing a good job there’ll be plenty of others who deem it not good enough or the “right way” with plenty of advice to sort through and countless opportunities to screw it up… and always onlooking negative ninny’s to tell her so.
She need not fret. EVERY baby is different, and following a set of “rules” is counterproductive to raising an individual. No two parents will give the same advice for the same situation. Raising children is not a science. Nurturing is personal, and there is no one “right way.”
“my mom doesn’t want your advice” |
For me and the hubs the “right way” consists of what works for us and our family. It may not work for everyone, and that’s okay, but for us the results speak for themselves. Somehow, though, the peanut gallery can’t contain their comments, even when we DIDN’T ask.
Until recently I’ve been smiling, nodding–okay maybe with some eye rolling–taking it with a grain of salt, and going about my chosen lifestyle. I’m fed up. I’m tired of unsolicited advice. There is a great saying–I wish I’d thought of it–”opinions are like…” well, it’s basically a reference to your unpleasant nether regions and how they stink.
If I didn’t ask advice, I don’t care. AND, to those who say “Give it ____, and you’ll be over it” or “Wait till the next one comes” shove it up your a$% kindly take your opinions elsewhere. Where’s the love? Can I get a “Kudos to you for not taking the easy, well-traveled road”?
No one likes a naysayer, so jump off the negative train, or mind your own business.